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This is <a href="http://www.sethadamsmith.com/" target="_blank">Seth Adam Smith</a> and his wife, Kim. They’ve been married a year and a half, and Seth just realized: marriage is not for him.  
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Now before you start making assumptions, keep reading. 

I met my wife in high school when we were 15 years old. We were friends for ten years until…until we decided no longer wanted to be just friends. <img alt=":)" class="wp-smiley" src="http://media.viralpart.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif" /> I strongly recommend that best friends fall in love. Good times will be had by all. 
 
Nevertheless, falling in love with my best friend did not prevent me 
from having certain fears and anxieties about getting married. The 
nearer Kim and I approached the decision to marry, the more I was filled
 with a paralyzing fear. Was I ready? Was I making the right choice? Was
 Kim the right person to marry? Would she make me happy? 
 

Then, one fateful night, I shared these thoughts and concerns with my dad. 
 

Perhaps each of us have moments in our lives when it feels like time 
slows down or the air becomes still and everything around us seems to 
draw in, marking that moment as one we will never forget. 

My dad giving his response to my concerns was such a moment for me. 
With a knowing smile he said, “Seth, you’re being totally selfish. So 
I’m going to make this really simple: marriage isn’t for you. 
You don’t marry to make yourself happy, you marry to make someone else 
happy. More than that, your marriage isn’t for yourself, you’re marrying
 for a family. Not just for the in-laws and all of that nonsense, but 
for your future children. Who do you want to help you raise them? Who do you want to influence them? Marriage isn’t for you. It’s not about you. Marriage is about the person you married.” 
 

It was in that very moment that I knew that Kim was the right person to marry. I realized that I wanted to make her happy; to see her smile every day, to make her
 laugh every day. I wanted to be a part of her family, and my family 
wanted her to be a part of ours. And thinking back on all the times I 
had seen her play with my nieces, I knew that she was the one with whom I
 wanted to build our own family. 
 

My father’s advice was both shocking and revelatory. It went against 
the grain of today’s “Walmart philosophy”, which is if it doesn’t make you happy, you can take it back and get a new one. 

No, a true marriage (and true love) is never about you. It’s about 
the person you love—their wants, their needs, their hopes, and their 
dreams. Selfishness demands, “What’s in it for me?”, while Love asks, 
“What can I give?” 
 

Some time ago, my wife showed me what it means to love selflessly. 
For many months, my heart had been hardening with a mixture of fear and 
resentment. Then, after the pressure had built up to where neither of us
 could stand it, emotions erupted. I was callous. I was selfish. 

But instead of matching my selfishness, Kim did something beyond wonderful—she showed an outpouring of love. Laying aside all of the pain and anguish I had caused her, she lovingly took me in her arms and soothed my soul. 
 

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I realized that I had forgotten my dad’s advice. While Kim’s side of the marriage had been to love me, my side of the marriage had become all about me. This awful realization brought me to tears, and I promised my wife that I would try to be better. 
 

To all who are reading this article—married, almost married, single, 
or even the sworn bachelor or bachelorette—I want you to know that 
marriage isn’t for you. No true relationship of love is for you. Love is
 about the person you love. 
 

And, paradoxically, the more you truly love that person, the more love you receive. And not just from your significant other, but from their friends and their family and thousands of others you never would have met had your love remained self-centered. 


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Truly, love and marriage isn’t for you. It’s for others.</blockquote>

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